Growing up as a Nigerian kid came with all sort of experiences, all diverse and beautiful in their own ways, in all of this some information must have become part and parcel of your thought process, many of which were probably not so true. Some of these were religious in nature, some about sex and your sexuality and of course, some of them revolved around relationships and dating.
LIES YOU WERE TOLD ABOUT DATING
1. YOU WILL GET PREGNANT IF YOU LET A MAN TOUCH YOU
This usually came to young girls whose feminine parts were just becoming visible or those who just had their first period, there were different variations of the statement, some people were told that talking to a boy would get them pregnant, so others were told that talking to a boy would get them pregnant, some others were told that so much as sitting close to a boy would do the trick. Well, we all grown now, and am sure we all know better.
2. SOULMATE
Some of us still believe that only one person was made for us from the beginning of time. A relationship with anyone but this person would most likely not go as smoothly. There is nothing farther from the truth than this. There are many possible options for you who would make great partners. You could also meet someone great and have a trash relationship if you do not put in the required effort. The truth is No relationship comes predestined from heaven, you have to do the right things for your happiness to work as it should.
3. IF SHE SAYS YES TOO EARLY, DON’T TAKE HER SERIOUS
This is another one people may have told you. The idea that you have to chase and chase a woman is not outdated and not so wrong. No one has that time and while Some relationships actually begin like that, there is no such rule that says all relationships have to start that way. Whether the relationship began 6 hours, 6months, or 6 years is not really what determines the quality of the relationship.
4. FIRST DATE SEX
If you sleep with a man on the first date, you are a Slut and he won’t take you seriously. This is still a contentious subject even till now. But is it true?. Not exactly, the rules that apply to this are pretty much the same as the ones that apply to the one about becoming a couple early. First date sex or 10th date sex if he his going to dump you afterward he will and if he his going to stick with you, nothing is going to stop him from doing so.
5. YOU CAN’T “TOAST” A MAN
That was pretty much what all ladies were told, but then sis its 2020, hope you no longer believe in this Horse dung?
6. LOVE IS ENOUGH
Love is not enough, love does not equal compatibility, love will not solve your relationship problems and again Love is not always worth sacrificing yourself. You need more in life than love, Love is great Love is necessary, Love is beautiful but Love is not enough.
7. THAT YOU NEED TO HAVE A SIGNIFICANT OTHER
Singularity and independence are criminally underrated, you have time, freedom, autonomy and the possibility of getting hurt, there are definite perks to being with someone, but your relationship with yourself is just as important as your relationship to anyone else. Things will fall into places unless you learn to value YOURSELF.
Pretty much everything about dating / relationship is a lie or misinformation. The only truth is that it’s all about communication and establishing trust. The rest is trying to figure out how two individuals can coexist happily together, and that is going to be unique to only you and whomever you are dating.
*Gracias*
