*Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another* – Marquis de Condorcet.
If as a person you took the strengths of others and compare them to your weaknesses, how will that make u feel?. Funny enough at one point in all of our lives as humans we must have done this.
But wait a minute, who cares if you don’t know how to play volleyball If you can’t Ride a Bicycle if you can’t write, who cares? But if you look at your strengths, You will realize you have a lot to offer, and a lot to be grateful and happy for.
Today’s topic promises to be an interesting one, so why not fasten your seat belt and enjoy the ride.
*HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS*
I think it is natural to compare ourselves to others, but it makes us unhappy even if we have enough and should be happy with what we have. Below are tips on how to help you stop comparing yourself with others.
1. *STOP YOURSELF*: The moment you realize you are doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause, don’t feel bad, or berate yourself, just acknowledge the thought and gently change your focus.
2. *COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS*: Wondering where you could focus on ?. A better focus will be on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with, count what you have, not what you don’t. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.
3. *BE OK WITH IMPERFECTIONS*: No one is perfect *intellectually, we all know that but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection, you aren’t perfect and you never will be, I certainly am not and you should learn to be okay with that. Sure keep trying to improve, but don’t think you will ever be the Perfect person*.
Looking at it in another way, your imperfection is what makes you who you are, you are already perfect.
4. *DON’T KNOCK OTHERS DOWN*: Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms enmity where you should be making friends, in the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success (that will lead to more success on your part).
5. *FOCUS ON THE JOURNEY*: Don’t focus on how you rank in comparison to others (life is not a competition), it’s a journey, we are all on a journey to find something, to become something, to learn, to create, this has nothing to do with how well other people are doing or what they have but it has everything to do with what we want to do and where we want to go. That’s all you need to worry about.
6. *AWARENESS*: Most often we do social comparisons without realizing we are doing it. It is a natural act, *I suppose*, and as a result, its something that is done without consciousness. So the solution is to become conscious, bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it will be hard to notice.
*TO LOVE IS TO STOP COMPARING*
You have enough, if you have shelter over your head, food on the table, clothing on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed. Anything you have over and above is more than enough, be good with that and you will find contentment.
Being able to look at your own strengths, and see your true value, it is actually one of the keys to success because, without this ability, you will be unmotivated and won’t believe in yourself.
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