How to balance your family and your marriage

It has been a trying period for everyone globally, and am sure it hasn’t been easy but in all am grateful and I hope we all are holding on fine and staying safe. Well let’s get into this discussion.. How to balance your family and your marriage

Before we move forward what’s the meaning of family and Marriage?

FAMILY: a group consisting of two parents and their children living together as a unit.

MARRIAGE: The legal or formal recognition of the union of two people as partners in a personal relationship.

Sometimes life gives us a lemon and In a Nutshell, you feel ”Unbalanced” this feeling just happened to me feel days ago and my husband was worried about me. It is alright to feel this way and try to make amends but what is not right is trying to ignore it. If you ever feel unbalanced in this way then here are few tips below to help you Balance your Family and Your Marriage.

• DATE YOUR SPOUSE ONCE A WEEK

You probably hear it all the time that you need to *Date* each other and try making time for your spouse? Here is the Question, *Do you do it?* It doesn’t have to be an elaborate thing but, sometimes do you and your spouse get out of the house and do stuff, *Just the two of you*?

If not make it your number one priority, you two need to connect one on one on a very regular basis to maintain balance in marriage. At first, it will take some planning but once you are in the habit, it will take much less time and energy to plan, plus you will see value in it and am sure you will love the result and you will wonder why you didn’t start sooner.

DATE WITH YOUR KIDS

Your kids are an apart of you now so you have not only make plans for your spouse but also have to involve your kids too, it is vital to spend some dedicated quality time with your kids for balancing marriage and family life. However busy you may be, marriage and family life can thrive for a lifetime, only when you make an effort to spend sufficient time with them. So it is essential that along with together time, you should spend some one on one time with each of your kids to know them better and it will help improve your bonding with them.

BE IN THE KNOW ABOUT YOUR FAMILY CALENDAR

It may seem like a funny tip, but you won’t believe how much it will help you balance your relationship and family life. Get a big Calendar, markdown soccer games dates, doctor appointments and date nights and if possible set a reminder for this dates, cause when you all are organized and on the same page, and the beautiful thing about plotting calendar is that you get to prioritize and as a family, you get to decide in advance what the most important thing will be, things will flow better and in turn, that will keep everyone less stressed, which will help in building a strong family.

Being Organized equals more family time.

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TAKE ESSENTIAL DECISIONS MUTUALLY

A lot of decision are made in a family and when it comes to making important ones that will directly or indirectly impact the entire family, make it a practice that both of you make the decision, whether it is about making critical decisions for your kids or something for the household when one of the spouses does not agree with the decision made, it can affect the harmony and spirit of the family. Spouses should talk it out mutually or even discuss in the presence of the entire family. It is critical to not miss out on other’s opinions which is equally important as yours.

In building Family relationships and fostering transparency and equality, you must make an effort to make important decisions in mutual consonance

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TURN OFF THE SCREENS FOR ONE HOUR A NIGHT

Interestingly Family time is limited when you think about it, Kids spend hours at school all day, Parents work all day and then afterward have to run the house on top of the day’s activity. So basically the only family time is just dinner time and a short period of time before and after that. Unfortunately TV Screens, Tablet, Smart Phone, Video games and so on. While they can be fun, they can also be a distraction from the most important people in your life during your very limited family time. So if you genuinely wish to have a successful marriage and family life, every night preferably around dinnertime, Mandate an hour screen-free time.

Whatever your family wants to do, even by just sitting and talking can prove to be beneficial in balancing marriage and family life

Marriage can’t and should not be neglected, neither should family but as humanly possible you have to try and balance the two, as one can’t work without the other. Trust the process and you will be amazed at how much you have been missing. Create that time for your family and Marriage today

Thanks for reading and I hope you learn something today. please drop your review, comments, suggestions, and observations in the comment section below.

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