An enemy is someone whose objectives could place you in harm’s way, they either don’t know or don’t care that their decision could cause irreparable harm to you and your career. Enemies are never immediately recognizable, they are always hiding under the cloak of agreeableness until they show their true colors.
I want you to know that no matter how pure your intentions or how innocent your heart is, you cannot avoid their mandatory presence in your professional life.
*HOW TO AVOID ENEMY OF PROGRESS*
The good news is that you always have control over how much anyone’s misguided antagonism can interfere with your future.
1. SHIFT YOUR MINDSET ABOUT YOUR ENEMY:
You may not always feel like it, but you are actually in control of the situation, adversaries are good at making us feel bad, approaching them with the right attitude will help you keep them from affecting you. Focus your thoughts on positive things and people in your life. Decide where you want to be in life and pursue that path with confidence.
2. DON’T INVEST MENTAL ENERGY IN THE PERSON:
Staying calm and collected is your best strategy for managing difficult situations and people. Ignore any comments or behavior enemies use to taunt you or provoke a reaction from you.
3. REJECT ANY NEGATIVITY THEY PROJECT ON YOU:
Your enemy may continuously try to bring you down with negative comments, your job is to keep those comments from affecting you. Don’t take the comment to heart, be the master of your own happiness(you decide who to avoid and who to listen to). Your happiness your topmost priority.
4. SIDE STEP ANY POTENTIAL ENCOUNTER WITH HIM OR HER:
It may be impossible to avoid your enemy completely, but it is worth investing some effort to avoid meeting him if you can. Avoid places where you commonly meet or cross paths of an enemy who is a coworker or classmate. Delete social media connections to him or her if you have any. Don’t engage in conversation if you cannot avoid him completely – acknowledge their presence but ignore any attempt at engagement.
5. TAKE CONTROL OF ENCOUNTERS
If you cannot avoid your enemy, you can at least make the decision not to engage with him, or minimize that engagement. Don’t listen to what he says to you, try not to react to his taunts and negative words, even when it is difficult, Do not under any circumstances, get pulled into an argument or fight with them. Another thing walks away if you must, being cornered by your enemy can lead m important to avoid the temptation to get revenge or otherwise hurt them, Don’t react to provocations. This is because you can’t change your enemies, you can only change how to react to them.
6. STAY POSITIVE
Keeping a positive attitude will help you avoid spending too much energy and time thinking about your enemy’s behavior. Think about your support network every time a negative thought comes to mind, never lose track of your goals and how you will reach them.
7. BE YOUR OWN BEST SUPPORTER:
Think of what you admire most in yourself and focus on your own accomplishment, Friends and family are valuable supporters, but it is also important to take care of yourself. Come up with something that you can say to yourself when you going through a phase *I am the strongest person I know* or *I can handle anything that comes my way*
It is easy to spend energy on your enemy and how to deal with them, but you will feel better and stronger if you remember all the positive and helpful people in your life instead.