When I look back at all the relationships that didn’t work out, then I realized that in every case, there were early warning signs that each guy gave me that could have given me some ideas of the heartbreak ? I was about to experience if I had only been aware to look for.
I tell you that some guys know all the right things to say and do to make you fall hard for them, even if they only see you as one of their possible multiple Playthings. No matter how much you like him, don’t ignore these signs that he is trying to trick you into thinking *You are the only one he wants*
*IS HE PLAYING YOU ?*
1. HE FINDS EVERY EXCUSE NOT TO COMMIT
words like *I just want to make sure it’s right*, or like *I like to take things really slow*, “I think you are great and I don’t want to mess it up by rushing into anything. These are all valid at the beginning of the relationship, but if you are still getting excuses after excuses months into your supposed could – be a relationship, you can stop giving him the benefit of the doubt, he is not ready for you, and if you keep buying his *reasons*, then he will have no reason to and he will keep playing you.
2. HE DOESN’T BRING YOU AROUND HIS FRIENDS
Meeting close friends and family is a big deal, so in the early stages, it’s understandable if he wants to wait until things are clearly going somewhere before having his friends get attached to you. However, avoiding introducing you to his social group is only acceptable for so long before it becomes suspicious. After a few months, he either doesn’t see you as having a long – term potential or he may be worried about what his friends might say about the other girl he has in his life. And if he is not ready to lose the other girl, you become his joke.
3. HE’S DISMISSIVE OF YOUR ROLE IN YOUR LIFE
Bringing you into his social group isn’t a sure sign that he is not just jerking you around, pay attention to how he speaks to and about you. Is he making a point to introduce you as his *friend* ?. If one of his friends asks about your relationship, does your guy reply that you are “Hooking up”? If so, you have just learned what you mean to him. And that is not likely to change anytime soon.
4. HE HAS FLIRTY EXCHANGES WITH OTHER WOMEN ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Not everyone is super into social media use, so it’s not necessarily a big deal if he has no signs of you on his page. What is a big deal is if you see him making flirty comments on other women’s photos or posts. Some guys try to say that this behavior isn’t a big deal because it’s all online or ” Just a compliment “, but don’t let him manipulate you into accepting this if you are not cool with it.
5. HE PLANS & HE NEVER FULFILS
Actions mean way more than words. We all have to occasionally cancel plans, but if this is happening all the time with this guy, then something is up. Best case scenario, he is a serial Flake, worst-case scenario, he his blowing you off to spend time with someone else. Don’t let yourself get treated like a backup plan and definitely don’t spend your precious time waiting for someone who won’t dedicate his free time to you.
6. HE MAKES A POINT TO EMPHASIZE THAT HE HIS SINGLE
Please do yourself a favor and take him at his word when he says you are not his girlfriend. Even if you two do things that committed couples do, even if he is spending almost every night at your place, even if he is all lovey-dovey with you, you are only fooling yourself if you expect him to be exclusive to you when he throws out phrases like “if we ever become a couple”. He is just setting himself up to avoid looking like the bad guy when he inevitably hooks up with someone else.
Guys or girls like this, they always feel they are smart, even when they are not, it is now left for you to decide to stay or move on, even when you see all the warning signs that he/she is only playing you. Sometimes, it’s hard to see when we are in it, but know that if you are willing to settle for less than you deserve, then that’s your choice. I will tell you there’s truly is someone out there ready and waiting to give you what you are looking for and to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
I want you to know that you deserve nothing less than that, no matter where you have been or what you have been through.
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