No relationship is perfect. There are good and bad times. Relationships attraction, but with effort and work from both parties, but willing to make it work. It’s true that no one is perfect, but we can always get it right and just have to do it right. I’m sure by now you already have an idea of what to expect, so why don’t you just get a sit and read on?. I’m *MONICA aka Idara Shakara??*. I am so super excited about this topic……. *RELATIONSHIPS AND MINDING ONE’S BUSINESS*
RELATIONSHIP: is a close friendship between two people, especially one involving romantic or sexual feelings, and at some point, the relationship between two things is the way in which they are connected.
MINDING ONE’S BUSINESS: is in simple English saying which asks for respect of other people’s privacy, stop meddling, don’t interfere, don’t poke nose into someone else’s business especially when your opinion or action wasn’t sought.
In life, the relationship you have with people will go a long way to define you. Hence, be self cautious. Connecting with people Romantically, emotionally and physically can be really amazing in the short while but in the long run, with a lot of work that is put in one can build a good and long-lasting relationship.
You have to be comfortable with who you are with, talk to them about your feelings, ask questions and listen to their answers and always respect their point of view, and if anyway their words upset you speak up, don’t make the latter be the one to try to figure what went wrong, talking through problems help build a stronger relationship, it doesn’t have to be about you alone don’t always forget to let them know when something they did make you happy.
In Relationships it always helps to stay truthful to each other about what you do, be honest like the saying goes “Honesty Breeds Trust”, few things harm relationship more than lie.
Importantly Respect each other’s opinion and ideas, be contended, don’t go looking for what isn’t missing if they want you to know something without stress they will open up without fuss, so you really don’t need to go around looking for a way to know what they are hiding or not telling. It simply means you don’t trust them and you are invading their privacy which could affect the relationship whether Romantic, Friendship or Business. Mistakes are bound to happen and nobody is above mistake but how you react and your actions define your personality, Be willing to apologize when you wrong and be ready to accept apologies from the other party.
I have been in relationships and I have found
out that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help u stick to one person, after all, cheating isn’t always a
product of not loving your partner. In fact,
loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling
in love with any other person. Relationships work out mostly because of our head, not our heart, it works out because of emotional maturity, emphatic intelligence, and self-discipline.
You see, time will come when I’ll see more
beautiful, handsome, intelligent, sexy, curvy
and God-fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with. In those times Love will not help you Self-control will help u, Emotional intelligence will help u, Commitment will help you No matter how u feel for someone, the person you are committed to ranks first in your life.
You think married people don’t see better
people than the ones they are married to?
You think they don’t feel funny at times?
You think they don’t catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is a great arsenal to destroy that impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted u to them. It takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient when it’s sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship.
After then, you’ll realize that the feelings have
dropped, its now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.
Building a relationship is hard work, its like
building a career. It’s like pursuing a dream,
it is always tough, it will sometimes be so bitter but u can make it work. Everyone falls in love, it takes no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only a few do that. That’s why we must find one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself, bridle your emotions.
Relationships cannot be ready-made. U must
build it and its never always about love. In
the long run in marriages, it’s not loving that
keeps them together again. The kind of love
that attracts two people together is not the
kind of love that will keep them.
Be Emotionally Strong Sticking to one person
is not natural. U must develop yourself to do
I hope you enjoy reading this. Do drop your observation, questions, and suggestions in the comment section below.?.